Before our recent move, my husband and I had the opportunity to live in a city that was home to many different military bases. Through our interaction with different people, both at church and in everyday life, we had the opportunity of meeting many different servicemen and their families. It never ceased to amaze us the level of courage it takes to be a wife of a serviceman. Whether on deployment or actively serving at home, the life of a serviceman is one of sacrifice and others-focused, and for the wives, they are often having to play the role of mother and, at times father. So on this Memorial Day, my family and I wanted to write a letter to honor you, the wife of military servicemen in order to honor you and thank you for the sacrifices you make.
Dear Military Wife,
First of all, we wanted to thank the sacrifices you have made on behalf of our country. You have had to spend countless hours at home taking care of the house, family, and filling in the gaps for time that your husband has not been around.
Sometimes you have had to move your house, kids, across the country without the help of your husband. Others may be around to help, but it is no substitute for the help and support that he provides in such a stressful situation. For that, we want to thank you.
Maybe you have given birth to a son or daughter without your husband to support you. The courage that that requires is unimaginable. Then you have had to, while putting on a face of everything is ok, show that son or daughter to dad via skype or video phone (and to do it in a way that will not make him worry about you and the rest of the family). For that, we want to thank you.
You have had to pay bills, take care of finances, make family decisions, communicate with his family, update friends and family on how things are going, chauffeur the kids, give coaching tips, reassure the kids that daddy’s ok, and countless other things. In doing these things, you have had to put on a face that says that all is ok (even when you may feel like everything is about to fall apart). That takes courage. For that, we want to thank you.
You have shown incredible grace in trying to live what is your normal life, but one that requires daily amounts of sacrifice that most of us on the outside could never know. Then when your husband returns, you have to adapt to a new normal- one that, at times, requires you training him to do what you’ve been doing while he’s away. For that, we want to thank you.
For some of you, the transition to having your husband back home is a welcomed one, but very difficult. You have to pick up your relationship with him as if nothing was different, but sometimes that can be hard. He may be carrying some heavy burdens from being deployed and may be distant at first. You show that same bravery while he was away, but he’s home. We can’t imagine how hard that must be. For that, we want to thank you.
We know that some of you have paid the ultimate price, and are left to move on without your husband. We cannot imagine how hard a day like today must be, but you are living with this reality everyday. We don’t know how you do it, but we know it takes a strength that not many people have. For that, we thank you.
There are countless things that we could mention that you do that require great amounts of sacrifice and courage. Things that for many of us, are common, but become difficult because of the sacrifice you and your family are making for our country. Today, we wanted to thank you for that and leave you with a prayer of blessing from the Bible:
The Lord bless you
and keep you;
the Lord make his face shine upon you
and be gracious to you;
the Lord turn his face toward you
and give you peace.
Mackenzie and Family