My “Mom Goal”: To Choose the Right Major

My sweet little “balls of energy” and I on Mother’s Day!

In selecting a major in college, you also have the option of selecting a double major, or a minor. In college, I began as an Elementary Education major with a Spanish minor. In the end, I graduated with a double major in Elementary Education and Spanish. I realized that with a summer spent in language school and another summer spent on campus taking a few classes I would be able to actually change my Spanish minor into a major. I worked really hard to accomplish this.

My constant temptation in parenting is to allow the “minors” to become the “majors”. A single day of a mom is filled with: loving, playing, cooking, cleaning, fixing, hugging, calling, disciplining, laughing, teaching, organizing, mending, and building forts. It is so easy to allow any of those tasks to become the “major” of my parenting.

I often trick myself into believing that parenting can have a “double” or “triple” major. If I just WORK really hard (like I mentioned I did in college) then everything will be just “perfect”. The house will be clean, my boys will develop Godly character, my husband will be encouraged and happy, our turtle will be fed (yes, he accidentally gets neglected somedays), and I would be well rested and refueled. In my few years of parenting, I constantly come back to this false reality.

I was recently challenged to refocus my major as a mom by our pastor, and through this passage in Romans 12:1-2.

Therefore, I urge you, brothers and sisters, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as a living sacrifice, holy and pleasing to God-this is your true and proper worship.2 Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will. Romans 12:1-2

My “Mom Goal” Components:

Goal 1: First and foremost, I need to make sure that Jesus Christ is first in my life. Not my children, not my husband, and not all those little “minors” I mentioned earlier that my days are filled with. I need my children to sense that their is something else more important than them in my life; my personal relationship with Jesus. As I pursue Him, my children will see my example and that my satisfaction comes from the Lord not them and their performance.

Goal 2: Second, that my parenting would be grace-based and not law-based. I love Tim Kimmel’s book Grace-Based Parenting which introduced my husband and I to this concept a few years ago. Law-based parenting says, that “you have to be perfect, ” and forces parents to live in guilt and bound by the burdens of their failures. Grace-based parenting says, that “I’m not perfect, but God’s grace is sufficient!” Grace-based parenting says that God purposefully chooses to use broken, flawed, hurt, people as parents because in the end HE gets the glory not the parents!

Goal 3: Third, can be found in Romans 12:2: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” The world around us tells us to strive to raise the smartest, most athletic, most gifted, most beautiful, most community service oriented child we possibly can, and then compare our children to those of others to make ourselves feel better. How about aiming to raise children for the one reason they were created for: to love Jesus the most. If we are going to compete in anything what a great race to enter our children in right!?! Let’s focus on WHO our children will become and not on WHAT they do.

Goal 4: Finally, follow God’s model of parenting. He parents us with truck fulls (yes, I have 2 boys) of both LOVE and GRACE. In order for God to flood us with love and grace, He does so by creating clear boundaries. Just as young children need and long for clear boundaries so do we as parents without realizing it. God pours his love all over us but He also reminds us who is Boss!

I thank my pastor for these 4 clear biblical goals for moms and invite you to come along side me as I daily attempt to “transform and renew my mind” as a mom and CHOOSE the right major: putting Jesus first .
 
 
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Mackenzie is a follower of Jesus, wife, mama of two toddler boys, teacher at heart, and coffee lover. She was a lower school elementary teacher for over 6 years, with a master's degree in Reading, and is a certificated Reading Specialist. She currently works part-time at a private school allowing her more time at home with her little guys.

Mackenzie has blogged 688 posts here.

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  1. My goodness, MacKenzie, what a beautiful post. And an important reminder to me as a mom. Somedays I strive so hard to keep the house picked up, good meals on the table (because honestly these were things that were lacking n my own home growing up) that I can get to the end of the day and feel like I didnt connect with my daughter the way I should have. You cant put tasks ahead of relationship, and this is a great reminder.

    Gracias para sus palabras! ;)

  2. I love your blog! This post in particular is fabulous.
    I am a Spanish Education major with minors in English and TESOL. Very similar to you! … and a daughter of Jesus, too. :)
    Amanda

    • I LOVE finding blog friends who I have so much in common with! That’s awesome! :) I just commented on your hilariously awesome camping cupcakes. We are planning my son’s 3rd Firefighter Bday right now but my husband will flip over the camping idea. I can’t wait to brag on you to him! :) Have a great weekend and stay in touch! :)

  3. I’m glad I had some time to poke around your site more tonight. This is such a great post. It’s really encouraging to me. It keeps everything grounded and in perspective. Thank you for passing this along. So wise!

  4. I’m 26, single female and have been reading your blog for hours. I’m not as spiritual and this message obviously poke to me in a more confusing way. Everything I agree with, but I don’t understand insisting jesus christ on your boys. Shouldn’t they come to discover him on their own, isn’t that the righteous way of parenting? Am I wrong, or do you believe this is the one area where they shouldn’t decide on their own? I’m curious to your thoughts as I’ve often wondered about how I will incorporate religion in my future kids’ lives. I think your blog is so beautfiul and fascinating, even to someone who hasn’t had kids yet!

  5. Mackenzie,

    I count it nothing but the Lord that I ended up on this blog. This was a beautiful post! I look forward to reading more and linking up with you and other women who have come to the realization that a relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important relationship we could ever have, and instill in our children. Thank you for being transparent and allowing God to use you to spread encouragement, creativity, and most importantly, His love!

    XOXO,
    Mandi
    The Peachy Mosaic

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